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Do you know what Emotional Intelligence is? Let’s pause for a moment and define it. 

Emotional Intelligence is not one or a few but ALL of your brain’s mindset. They include the following:

  • Social Skills
  • Motivation
  • Empathy
  • Self Awareness
  • Self Regulation
SOCIAL SKILLS
It’s foremost to know where you are and where you’re going. Otherwise, it’s like trying to make a long trek without a map.  First, you won’t know how to start. Second, you won’t know if you are drawing close or just walking around your destination. That is, you understand what your current social strengths and limitations are. 
 
Brain-injured people, after awhile, should know their strengths and limitations. 
 
MOTIVATION
There are many theories that point to why people do the things they do. But my favorite is the Drive Theory in which people are motivated to an action to reduce the tension that is caused by unmet needs. You might be motivated to eat in order to reduce the state of hunger.

The drive theory is based on homeostasis, the idea that the body is working to maintain a certain state of balance.

Brain-injured people ultimately know what to do to avoid scary behavior that cause their equilibrium to go haywire, not at first but after repetitive falls, for example.

EMPATHY

Empathy is the ability to put yourself in someone else’s shoes to communicate that understanding back in return. It’s the ability understand people’s situation and feelings from their point of view.

Many brain-injured people say, “You can only know how this [stroke or other brain injury] feels if you were to see it for yourself.”
 
SELF AWARENESS
 
From understood.org, people with self awareness can: 
  • Recognize their strengths and challenges
  • Understand and talk about their needs and feelings
  • Recognize other people’s needs and feelings
  • See how their behavior affects others
  • Develop a growth mindset and learn from their mistakes
Brain-injured should be able to accomplish all on the list, with practice and lots of it.

SELF REGULATION

Dr. Steven Stosny says in Psychology Today, “Consistent self-regulation requires focus on your deepest values rather than feelings. It’s also the best way to feel better. Violation of values invariably produces bad feelings, while fidelity to them eventually makes you feel more authentic and empowered.” 

In other words, taking feelings out of the picture, what is the right thing to do?

Most brain-injured people, at least the thousands that I met online (and after awhile) are more patient and inwardly compassionate, looking at what is right–the core values–than focusing on feelings which makes you angrier, frustrated, hateful. 

To all of the brain-injured people out there, wouldn’t you agree that I’m talking, with lots of repetitions, acquiring emotional intelligence is already almost there for you? If necessary, think about it and read this post again to understand my point of view.

We got this, right?

Joyce Hoffman

Joyce Hoffman

Joyce Hoffman is one of the world's top 10 stroke bloggers according to the Medical News Today. You can find the original post and other blogs Joyce wrote in Tales of a Stroke Survivor. (https://talesofastrokesurvivor.blog)
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